It’s November! Time For Creating Lasting Love, Tip #4

I love this time of year! I love the many colors that spring out during this time of year especially the orange and yellow hues. I enjoy watching how the trees naturally and effortlessly flow through their process of change not needing to be told what to do but just doing what comes naturally.

November is my favorite month of the year. I’m totally bias when I say that because it's my Birthday month *wink* *wink* and I’m excited as hell! November 5th is my Birthday to be exact and I'm so looking forward to the celebrations to come. This is another year to celebrate me! It’s another year to appreciate me growing beautifully, another year of me evolving and learning more of who I am, and another year to appreciate my presence in the lives of others. I am truly blessed by these acknowledgments and don’t take them for granted. It hasn’t always been that way for me though. I didn’t stop long enough to appreciate what my presence meant in the lives of others. I mean really stop long enough to appreciate the value inside of me and how much others appreciated that. Sometimes the very thing we take for granted within ourselves is the very thing someone else needs from us.

Along with this knowing comes much responsibility that doesn’t always flow easily and effortlessly. Sometimes it takes effort and a willingness to continue to move forward in the face of discomfort and fear. This discomfort came for me when I had to be vulnerable and felt like that was just the craziest thing I could ever do. It was, at least to me, but it was exactly what I needed to do but chose not too because life had to be perfect. I couldn’t allow my flaws to be shown. Little did I know they were already being shown anyway. I was the only one who didn’t want to acknowledge them. Since then I’ve embraced my flaws and have given my fears the middle finger and that damn sure feels better.

Through my growth I’ve learned to allow my blossoming to be used as a gift in helping others to live through and accept their own blossoming. I’ve learned that you cannot run from who you truly are, YOU will catch up with you sooner than you think. One of my gifts to others this year is to allow myself the permission to be fully who I am with them, at all times, no matter how uncomfortable it may be at times. I’m speaking about allowing others to be blessed within my own vulnerability.

We’ve been taught that being vulnerable means being irresponsible with yourself and that you should protect and guard yourself from the exposure that being vulnerable will bring. This could very well have some truth to it but what do you really have to loose? If you open your heart and speak from a place of what others may say is weakness or girlie and you give your absolute truth and it allows you to grow from the experience, then what have you really lost? It sounds to me like GAIN, yes? Now, what the hearer does with that is up to them, that has nothing to do with you. What you are left with is your ability to be open and vulnerable with another which is ultimately what we all want to do because it’s where our truth lives.

If I were to stick with the belief that I had to “protect myself” and not continue to walk in the direction of being vulnerable my husband and I would not have the kind of open, loving, and accepting relationship that we have today. I would not be as open and receiving as I am with him which would mean no more growth and endless possibilities for us. How would we be able to create lasting love if I were closed to him and he were closed to me? He wouldn’t be the man he is today if I didn’t give him my gift of being vulnerable. I know he appreciates it and trusts me because of my openness. I wouldn’t have the kind of connection that I have with my children and the fact that they can talk to me about anything. My children wouldn’t know the beauty of being vulnerable and that there is actual beauty in that. I have extended that same kind of openness to friends that I would have never, ever, ever done before but glad I am and it feels amazing to be able to do so.

This season represents effortless transformation, allowing, growing, and a willingness to flow and let go of the old to make room for the new. What are you holding onto that you need to let go of? What are you afraid of letting go of that you think you need to have in order to “protect” yourself from not getting hurt? These pictures that I chose to share show roads leading to nowhere or at least we can’t see where they are leading. Life is just like that, we find ourselves at these points in the road and we know we need to keep moving forward but are terrified to do so. If you begin to put one foot in front of the other you will eventually get there. Where? The last picture represents the light that you will walk into, a place that you will eventually arrive at. It represents warmth which is a great feeling to experience especially traveling paths of unfamiliarity. It represents the peace that you thought you would never experience at the beginning of this journey. It represents a more grounded you who will experience safety that you are yearning for from within your own self.

Let go and just flow! (p.s I was once afraid to live by those words too Winking smile

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