Creating Lasting Love, Tip #3

Be open to pleasure.

Get familiar with the things that bring you pleasure like it's a matter of life and death. Become an active pleasure seeker and commit yourself to experiencing it regularly. You will be happier and so will your love. Loosen up and lose yourself in order to find yourself. Find out what you like, desire, and have to have in order to live in pleasure and feel absolutely amazing. Become pleasures best-friend and don't settle for anything less. Flirt with pleasure, you do know how to flirt, yes?

If you don't, here's an exercise that will help get you warmed up. Find a quiet place in your home, grab a mirror, and sit on the floor. Pull out a pen and paper and make a list of all the things you can think of that brings you pleasure. As you're writing look into the mirror every now and then and smile. Smile at that beauty staring back at you, you will appreciate your own admiration. If you start to feel the slightest elevation you are experiencing pleasure. Yes! What you want to do now is get familiar with what it feels like and master the art of keeping it around, always. 
 

Now that you're open, when pleasure appears embrace it. Wrap your arms around it and hold on tight. Enjoy what you are feeling. Enjoy this delight. You need to recognize what it feels like to be in pleasure. Pleasure always feels good. 

I understand it can be difficult to maintain a state of pleasure   because it can be a bumpy ride at times. For some women pleasure is not always a good thing, can you relate to that? For some it's a "bad" thing that needs no paying attention to. Pleasure is a major distraction and if I spend all day seeking after it I will not get anything done. Sound familiar? I understand, I get it. I was one of those women. I wanted to experience what it felt like to live my life in pleasure but when I got close and it started to feel too good I would back away. Pleasure was becoming my best-friend but I had to let go. You know, for safety purposes. It wasn't "safe" because of what others might think of me and how I might look. My pleasure had to be tucked away and kept in my secret place, it was too much. What secret place exactly? Secret places are supposed to be kind of like a hideaway, a getaway place that you can't wait to go to, in secret. Secret places are not cobwebbed filled, dark, cold and lonely places where you carelessly hide one of your most prized possessions. Well, that's where I put my pleasure and hoped that it would go away. I had to "look" decent, legs crossed and closed, at all times even when those times happen to be with my love. Great, now what do I do? How in the hell am I supposed to have all this moist, sexual fun with my love if pleasure has been tucked away without any playtime with me. Am I really going to expect myself to turn on like I'm a switch and make it through this episode with my love. Yes, that's exactly what I expected to be able to do and keep it going like he wasn't going to notice that weak ass stunt I just pulled. I wasn't kidding anybody else but myself.

How many of you can relate to this? Is what I'm talking about stirring up feelings inside of you and touching a place of familiarity? If so, here is what you do. As I said when I first began this love letter to you, be open to pleasure. This is a phrase I want you to become very friendly with. Say it in the mirror, say it on the train, say it before you go to bed, say it when you're standing over the stove cooking. Play with it, roll it around on your tongue, and feel it. Good. Now that you're getting acquainted saying it to yourself, make a shift and say it to your love. This, I want you to do non-verbally. Here's an example. When you and your love are speaking to each other, say it in your mind. No, I'm not telling you to ignore the conversation I'm telling you to become aware, open and relaxed in that moment. Your love will notice a difference. You will be open to receiving from your love. Trust me, if your thoughts wonder off a little, I'm sure this won't be your first time. The point is to get you to open up with your love by inviting pleasure in to stay in. Be open to pleasure and pleasure will be open to you. You will become a pleasure magnet and wouldn’t you like to experience that! You will be irresistible. Pleasure will always have a place in you and other's will notice. Your love will notice and so will you.

Creating Lasting Love, Tip #3 BE OPEN TO PLEASURE