Lisa C Writes

There is nothing like a date with your Love in the middle of the day, out of the way, no kids, no hustle and bustle, no phone calls (well, maybe one or two for David), no one else but us.  Date nights and lunch dates are a part of the dna and culture of our relationship. I'd say we've been dating since we met and the dates just get better and better. I feel like a school girl when I'm out with him. We're usually holding hands, cuddling up on each other, and I couldn't count the number of times I blush during our conversations. It always feels like we just met or are newlyweds . I wouldn't want to imagine it any other way. Below are a few pics from one of our recent rendezvous.  Oh, and there's a pic with a question at the end from us to you. So, when is your next date? xo, The 26th Affair  

"Love liberates. It does not bind." Maya Angelou Oh, my, my. This piece is one of the most beautiful gifts this incredible woman has blessed us with. Please listen as I did. Feel moved as I did. Compelled to liberate with Love. Because of her I call myself a poet, a writer .  Fabulous Finds Friday   xo,

Happy marriages and successful marriages do exist and mine is a living testimony. This post is part of the Happy Wives Club Blog Tour which I am delighted to be a part of along with hundreds of inspiring bloggers. To learn more and join us,  CLICK HERE!    This month the Happy Wives Club is celebrating marriages through the, "It's All About Love" blog tour. I'm happy to be a part of that celebration. Creating lasting love in any relationship takes work. The following is a very personal story that I've never shared before. It's about a very dark moment I experienced in my marriage and what we did that saved our love.  My number one secret to our happy marriage is communication .  In Stephen Covey's book, "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" he says that during communication one should, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Communication is the most important skill in life. You spend years learning how ...

Creating Lasting Love Tip #7 from Lisa Charles on Vimeo . This Love Tip is one of my favorites so far, because of what it can mean for the both of you. Touch is a way to relax your partner, become engaged physically with your partner, get the Love Juices flowing between you and your partner, and it can be very non-intrusive, if that's what you want.  Touch is also a way to show someone that you care about making them feel good, accepted, valued and loved. So often we can go through our busy lives passing one another, and never stop to think to ourselves, did I touch my partner today in a way that made them feel loved.  In my video I briefly touched on some ways you can get the massage going - I want to go deeper into those tips for you here. ~ Oil Massage oil is very important as it can enhance the (your) mood or stop the flow of things completely. There is nothing like laying down, all ready to be rubbed, and you get hit with a scent that's offensive to...

R.E.A.D, READ! Read together...and I have just the books to get you started. Two books I would highly recommend, She Comes First and He Comes Next . Play a game and see who can out-do the other and accomplish what the book says. I guarantee this will add heat to your bedroom where cold drafts exists. Exists in places that once you're inside of them you feel like all of a sudden wrapping up, putting on layers to protect yourself from the cold. Those areas that you want to avoid at all cost because that's where your discomfort lies. Add heat and warmth to those areas by testing your limit to see how far you can go in pleasing your partner intimately. Open up to understanding more about each other and share in that new understanding. Together you will enjoy thrills, excitement, anticipation that will be the spark you've been longing for. Alone you will learn secrets and techniques that will blow your partners mind completely and satisfyingly away. Now open up, get busy an...

You ever get so emotionally distraught you don’t know which way you’re going? You don’t know what to do or who you can turn to? This tip for creating lasting love involves your emotional wellbeing. How well have you been taking care of that aspect of who you are? This is a major area in relationships that if not attended to can greatly affect our sexual relations. We all have problems and issues that come up ever so often. We all come from dysfunctional families in some kind of way. We all experience hurt, disappointment, and (my all time favorite), growing pains. These are all things that we have to take responsibility for whatever emotional scars they may have caused. Rather than trying to resolve them (some are unresolvable), we should learn to see how they have impacted our lives. When we see these things with clarity, they tend to become more manageable and acceptable. Here are some suggestions for staying clear emotionally: Keep a journal – Writing...

I love this time of year! I love the many colors that spring out during this time of year especially the orange and yellow hues. I enjoy watching how the trees naturally and effortlessly flow through their process of change not needing to be told what to do but just doing what comes naturally.  November is my favorite month of the year. I’m totally bias when I say that because it's my Birthday month *wink* *wink* and I’m excited as hell! November 5th is my Birthday to be exact and I'm so looking forward to the celebrations to come. This is another year to celebrate me! It’s another year to appreciate me growing beautifully, another year of me evolving and learning more of who I am, and another year to appreciate my presence in the lives of others. I am truly blessed by these acknowledgments and don’t take them for granted. It hasn’t always been that way for me though. I didn’t stop long enough to appreciate what my presence meant in the lives of others. I mean really stop ...

Be open to pleasure. Get familiar with the things that bring you pleasure like it's a matter of life and death. Become an active pleasure seeker and commit yourself to experiencing it regularly. You will be happier and so will your love. Loosen up and lose yourself in order to find yourself. Find out what you like, desire, and have to have in order to live in pleasure and feel absolutely amazing. Become pleasures best-friend and don't settle for anything less. Flirt with pleasure, you do know how to flirt, yes? If you don't, here's an exercise that will help get you warmed up. Find a quiet place in your home, grab a mirror, and sit on the floor. Pull out a pen and paper and make a list of all the things you can think of that brings you pleasure. As you're writing look into the mirror every now and then and smile. Smile at that beauty staring back at you, you will appreciate your own admiration. If you start to feel the slightest elevation you are experiencing...

Even though my legs were sore from my race last Thursday evening I felt great by the time I went out Friday night with Hubby. This time we went out to one of the lounges we used to frequent awhile ago. We wanted a taste for something old but looked forward to creating a new experience. We started the night young so we would have plenty of time to satisfy our many desires that evening. By the time our night was over, we did just that. Having this time to share together has been one of the endless ways we pour love juices back into our relationship. From a very young age I decided that when I go married I would not wait on love to flow into my relationship but I would be an active participant in creating that flow. I’ve always believed that this is as important as our hearts are to our bodies. Friday night I enjoyed watching Hubby on the dance floor doing his thang. I'm talking sexxxxyyyyy! I couldn't contain myself from kissing all over him and playfully biting his lips a...

This morning before the kids got up and before it was time for hubby and I to get up we laid in each others arms. In our silence, holding each other so much was said and appreciated. The importance of cuddling with your lover, even for just a moment, will add a drop in your bucket of love for each other and toward each other. There is something about skin to skin connection and a warm embrace from your lover that makes everything look brighter.  Creating Lasting Love Tip #1 is to, Use the Power of Cuddling.