Winter Brings the HEAT!

The days are getting colder here in Georgia, the kind of weather that I’m not afraid off. As a matter of fact it’s one of my favorite times of year. I enjoy bundling up, feeling the cold wind hitting my face, getting cozy in front of the fireplace. It’s an excuse to get close. Someone once asked me how do I do it? How do I maintain the closeness that D. and I share? When do we find the time to you know, make mad passionate love (the kind where you’re left panting and wanting for more)? Umm, ok I’m back. My mind got away from me there. Now where was I? Oh yeah, the question. My answer: whenever, wherever, however, and with whatever. I know you’re probably scratching your head right now. The last part hit you with a left, right? Let me explain. We love to use toys, (well I do, that is), he loves to watch and use them on me.

When I shared this with the person who asked me their response was one of shock and confusion. “What do you mean”, they said. I mean exactly what I said. Toys are an intragal part of our sex life. “Why”? Why what? Why do you need toys when all you need is right there in front of you? Isn’t he enough? And don’t you think it will make him feel insecure? My answer: yes he’s more than enough and NO they will never make him feel insecure. He made the decision a long time ago to be secure with his wife (way before we got married) in all things.

At this point I could tell that he was thoroughly confused and really wanted to understand. So I broke it down like this: when God created Adam and Eve; no I’m just joking. I didn’t get biblical on him I simply told him that when two people are genuinely in love with each other there is nothing that can come between them, nothing that they can’t share.

Before I got married I used toys (by myself) I didn’t know about using them with anyone else. Most Men (sorry to say) are intimidated by them and feel they are not necessary when you are in a relationship. They have no problem if you’re alone and feeling lonely one night, decide to pull out good ole faithful and “rock yourself to sleep”. That’s when it’s acceptable, how unfortunate. I’m so glad I used them before I got married, I learned a lot about myself. My likes and dislikes, what worked and what didn’t. So by the time D. and I started using them together I told him what I liked and what I didn’t. I showed him how to do it and in that little act he became confident in knowing how to please me. He was actually the one who went out and bought me my first bullet, (thank you hun). Now I don't leave home without it....lol. And here are a few of my other favs, this one, and this, and can't forget this one....lol. Ok, that's enough.

By this time he was mellowing out and looking at me with a deep gaze on his face. I had to ask him if he was alright, just making sure he was handling it and not becoming overwhelmed. He just nodded with a “good ole school boy smile”, it was cute but that was my que, it was time to get up from the table and go. Oh I don’t think I mentioned it; he was my masseur for the day. This was one of my favorite spa visits ;)